Free your Mind! The Wisdom of Patient Acceptance

Modern Buddhism teachings, Brighton SDC

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“For us to be happy,

there has to be internal change.

 We have so little control over external conditions,

it’s our attitude we have to change.”

Kadam Bridget

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Sounds reasonable, like wearing shoes instead of trying to cover the world in asphalt. But how do we do it?

Get a realistic view of our world

Not some Disney fantasy of how it should be.
The world we live in is painful. Geshe Kelsang likens it to trying to get comfortable living in a thorn bush. This is the nature of our samsara, the endless cycle of dissatisfaction and pain we’re all stuck in.

Shih Tsu Happens

So relax and stop fighting it.
Our natural human response to fear is to avoid it. I am asking you to look straight at it, feel the feeling, and lean into it instead of away from it.
Terri Cole (via yogachocolatelove)

“Be empowered by this wisdom” Kadam Bridget

Knowing and using this wisdom enables us to cope and deal with our problems.
Our lives are full of endless difficulties.
At the end of the day we can just feel broken sometimes, can’t we.” Bridget

Patient acceptance can dissolve these negative, disempowering feelings away, and in doing so evaporate painful situations. This allows us progress in our lives in a pro-active way. Accepting difficulties with a patient mind, is far from passive, it is taking a “very strong, active stance.” Geshe Kelsang

Patiently accept that this is the world we’re in

Patience is a mind that is able to accept, fully and happily, whatever occurs.” And not through gritted teeth! We accept whatever arises, “having given up the idea that things should be other than what they are.” Geshe Kelsang

Realizing the perfect logic of this, enables us to cut through negative mind sets like a knife through rancid butter. (It’s a Tibetan thing)
It gets easier with practice as well.
And abiding in the “calm clear space of patient acceptance” is a sweet place to be. 


See also Arya Tara in Brighton!
More of my notes from Kadam Bridget’s truly inspiring teachings on Modern Buddhism coming soon…

Shantideva Flowchart (via Vide)

Kadam Bridget’s talk on Modern Buddhism, Feb 2012
“How to solve our Human Problems” Geshe Kelsang Gyatso
Brighton KMC,
Vide Kadampa
and Jas (actually, that is Jas, falling over a hedge).

4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Strawberryindigo
    Feb 25, 2013 @ 18:58:11

    I am a natural avoider because of fear…I have to challenge myself constantly. Doing something everyday that scares me, helps…it does.
    Your words and this post helps too, thanks.



    • Jas Baku
      Feb 28, 2013 @ 17:15:48

      ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway?’ That’s brave. And takes some will power as well, to keep doing it. I’ve never thought of challenging myself even on a regular basis, let alone daily! How does it help? Is it to do with confidence and self esteem?



      • Strawberryindigo
        Feb 28, 2013 @ 17:28:34

        I had to challenge myself so frequently because I started out afraid of so much. I never would have left my house or talked to anyone if I didn’t.
        I used to be so afraid to even do a simple thing like pick up the phone and order a pizza that I had to write down what I’d say and practice it, really.
        I have come far….blogging helps.
        Monday I start a new job, I wouldn’t have been able to do this a year ago, but here I am doing it.
        So the simple things scare me, that is why I must challenge myself daily just to catch up and be normal.
        Believe me, I won’t be jumping out of an airplane or anything like that anytime soon… 😉



  2. Jas Baku
    Mar 01, 2013 @ 17:45:25

    Really? You’d never guess. It sounds like it was courageous just to write that reply. Thanks for that.
    Have you seen this? “Your elusive creative genius“, it’s about cherishing your creative spark. She talks about overcoming fear at the beginning. Blogging has really helped me too. Gives a real boost, doesn’t it. Can’t believe the lovely folk I’m meeting as well 🙂
    Good luck with the new job, hope it all goes well for you.



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