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“For us to be happy,
there has to be internal change.
We have so little control over external conditions,
it’s our attitude we have to change.”
Sounds reasonable, like wearing shoes instead of trying to cover the world in asphalt. But how do we do it?
Get a realistic view of our world
Not some Disney fantasy of how it should be.
The world we live in is painful. Geshe Kelsang likens it to trying to get comfortable living in a thorn bush. This is the nature of our samsara, the endless cycle of dissatisfaction and pain we’re all stuck in.
So relax and stop fighting it.
“Our natural human response to fear is to avoid it. I am asking you to look straight at it, feel the feeling, and lean into it instead of away from it.”
Terri Cole (via yogachocolatelove)
“Be empowered by this wisdom” Kadam Bridget
Knowing and using this wisdom enables us to cope and deal with our problems.
Our lives are full of endless difficulties.
“At the end of the day we can just feel broken sometimes, can’t we.” Bridget
Patient acceptance can dissolve these negative, disempowering feelings away, and in doing so evaporate painful situations. This allows us progress in our lives in a pro-active way. Accepting difficulties with a patient mind, is far from passive, it is taking a “very strong, active stance.” Geshe Kelsang
Patiently accept that this is the world we’re in
“Patience is a mind that is able to accept, fully and happily, whatever occurs.” And not through gritted teeth! We accept whatever arises, “having given up the idea that things should be other than what they are.” Geshe Kelsang
Realizing the perfect logic of this, enables us to cut through negative mind sets like a knife through rancid butter. (It’s a Tibetan thing)
It gets easier with practice as well.
And abiding in the “calm clear space of patient acceptance” is a sweet place to be.
See also Arya Tara in Brighton!
More of my notes from Kadam Bridget’s truly inspiring teachings on Modern Buddhism coming soon…
Kadam Bridget’s talk on Modern Buddhism, Feb 2012
“How to solve our Human Problems” Geshe Kelsang Gyatso
and Jas (actually, that is Jas, falling over a hedge).