Priceless Art ~
A Christmas Present
Grieving lost ones at Christmas
A touching and poignant piece by Julia.
I’m dedicating it here to all those who have lost loved ones, and still feel that empty space in their lives at Christmas.
I don’t think time heals so much as helps us cope. If they left our lives awhile ago, we can think fondly of those who have passed on; they will still benefit from our positive energy directed towards them. We can offer their memory a smile.
Grief has no time limit
It’s more normal than commonly accepted to still miss loved ones years after their passing. It’s OK do this; just hold ourselves and them with a mind of loving kindness.
“Grief takes as long as it does.” (Namaste Consulting Inc)
If their passing was more recent and the pain is still raw, sending them our love in the form of prayers and lights will be of mutual benefit to them and us.
When someone has just died, they are still very present in our minds. The loving energies we send to them become guiding lights on the next stage of their journey.
“To remember the dead is to acknowledge the coexistence of pain and love.”
By remembering those who have gone onto pastures new with loving kindness, we are honouring their memory. As long as we feel comfortable doing this, it’s a beautiful thing to do.Be kind to ourselves, as well. When we are in pain we are like injured children, who need to be treated gently and tenderly. Being patient with our own suffering helps it to heal. And we’ll never forget our loved ones, “Something in our minds will aways stay.” (Sting)
Cherish those who are still in our lives now. Really be with them. Part of honouring those who have gone from our lives is treasuring the people who are still here.
“The greatest gift you can offer loved ones is your true presence.” (Thich Nhat Hanh) Celebrating Christmas as you normally would, giving genuine smiles of joy – this is a real Christmas present to our loved ones.
* Related links (underlined) are given as offerings to go with this post.
Further thoughts on this: Death & Love, My Very Old Friends
Another day, another loss . . . all great love has a cost.
Please remember just to breathe, as you take this time to grieve.
Life is our gift from God above, and He blesses it with love.
Some folks say these gifts don’t last, but God won’t rob us of our past.
These blessings that we receive come with no special guarantees.
One day here, gone tomorrow . . . one day joy, the next, great sorrow.
You won’t see that face again?
Just close your eyes, my troubled friend.
God’s gifts will never leave your heart
your memories are your priceless art.
One of the few pics I have of all the Kovach kids. It’s hard to believe that Teri, Chris, and Steve have all passed on. These memories are my priceless art.
(Pic: Teri w/arms around Joe and Brenda; Chris next to her, holding…
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