Taking the pressure out of Valentines Day:
Considering the date and the general loti grow in mud theme of this site; you’d be expecting a piece on the evils of desirous attachment and the joy of unconditional love*.
Thing is, It wasn’t until the ‘doorbell‘ woke me up at 5.30am, and I turned on this computer that i realized the date.
OMG it’s Valentines Day!
How did that happen?!
Seriously, I work from home and it’s easy to lose track of time; and being single for so long, it’s not like an important date, but Valentine’s Day?
Guess I haven’t been able to get to the shops much and so have been spared the god-awful displays of sickly pink cards full of rosebud hearts. Not to mention the chocolate boxes that make you fat and bunches of roses that die after a few days.
As for the ‘doorbell‘ ~ well it was a dream, wasn’t it.
The dogs didn’t bark because there was nobody there.
And that’s just a teaching in itself really, isn’t it.
I mean, the people we normally see are fantasy figures.
They don’t exist outside of our mind, and our mind makes up their characteristics to suit the storyline we’re following. These people are really no more real that the figures in our nightly dreams.
They to seem to have their own “existence completely independent of our mind.” But as in a dream, the world we’re experiencing is deceptive, and is merely an appearance to our mind. In fact, it all “completely depends upon our mind, having no existence from its own side.” (Heart of Wisdom)
Dream Lovers and
A dream lover is just that. Someone we’ve dreamed up.
Of course, that applies to the nightmare relationships as well. They are no more inescapably real than nightmares are.
It just seems like that. We just need to wake up from it all.
‘Enlightenment’ means to wake up from the sleep of ignorance that creates our samsara. This is profound stuff and we’ve not much space. But understanding that everything around us is a mental construct, no different than a dream is liberating – to whatever degree we understand it.
Valentine’s day can be a killer if you’re not in a good situation where romantic love’s concerned and especially if you’re English. It can make us feel lonely and unloved if we let it.
A peaceful, calm, and therefore happier and more focussed mind comes from understanding that we make our own reality. We can then “live in the world without grasping at it. We shall treat it lightly and have the flexibility of mind to respond to every situation in a constructive way.”
And how cool would that be 🙂
Samsara is the cycle of uncontrolled birth, death and rebirth.
Emptiness is the lack of inherent existence, the ultimate nature of phenomena.
Refs / More reading:
Heart of Wisdom + Modern Buddhism
by Geshe Kelsang Gyatso
Happy Valentines Day? on here